Traditions and rituals within the family make everyone feel more united
and a part of the group. Many participants in parenting classes say, "Oh, we don't really have any traditions." But when we start brainstorming, it is amazing how many simple acts and events have been repeated in the same way, and they are now anticipated by family members.

Childhood is about growing into a respectful, contributing member of society. It is an opportunity to practice social and life skills that will be necessary out in the real world. We need to prepare them to be as independent as possible, because at some time there will not be a loving Mom to solve problems and they will have to assume personal responsibility..

A family meeting or council is a regularly scheduled gathering of all family members. Its purpose is to make plans and decisions, set goals as a family, provide encouragement and have fun together. This is a good place to discuss household chores and upcoming activities. It is also a great place to try out new skills and ideas in a safe environment. Wise parents use this time for modeling and teaching communication, inter-personal, and life skills that will enable all members of the family to succeed in endeavors outside the family unit. It is a set aside time when every one in the family shares their hopes, dreams and accomplishments.

Explaining the absent parent is never easy, but it is necessary. For children, their primary fear is of abandonment and loss of parental love. There may be a number of reasons that the family is no longer intact, if it ever was, but the child is looking for reassurance that it is not their fault and that they will be cared for.

Loving your step- child can be both simple and hard. Simple, because as a mature adult you know that all children need and deserve to be loved, and you love their parent and want to share in their lives. Hard, because children from divorce come with different needs, expectations and behaviors. They may or may not be open to returning your love and could be resentful of your presence.