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Forbidden Fruit. by Barbara Rose
by Barbara Rose
Astounding insight into how you can thrive in a rocky relationship Did you ever know a person or maybe even experience the fruitlessness in your own life, of trying to change someone else to suit your needs or desires?
Did you ever act a certain way to cause a reaction from another person?
Were you ever not authentic?
Did you ever own or see an apple tree? When was the last time you expected it to grow pears?
You may have someone in your life who is dear to you. If you don't now, you may in the future, so this information will be close at hand should you ever need it.
People love nature, trees, and flowers because they simply are, as they appear to be.
Many people make intimate relationships far too complicated. We can learn a lot from nature; so the following are some analogies you can make use of.
Let's say you have an apple tree in your backyard that you love. It provides you with shade when you feel stressed from the hassles of life. It provides nourishment when it grows shiny apples. You can lean on it when you feel like resting. You know it will be there when you come home.
You accept this tree as it is. If it dropped a bruised apple, would you chop it down? How many times have you chopped down someone when they had a bad day and did not fulfill your expectations of perfection?
The tree needs room to grow, branch out and thrive.
Do you give the person in your life the room he or she needs to grow and thrive? Or do you bombard them?
Would you like it if your apple tree bombarded three hundred apples on to your head every time you went over to it?
You are like a tree too. You have to know who you are, and be true to your nature. If you were a pear tree, a person would be quite a fool to expect you to grow strawberries.
You can't twist yourself to fit the model of how you think another person wants you to be. You have to be natural: Yourself.
Likewise, you must respect the nature of the other person.
We each have different emotional temperaments.
Some trees need full sun to grow well. Others grow best in partial sunlight, or in the shade.
Some people need a lot of physical closeness. Others only require partial. And, others still, require a lot of personal solitude in order to thrive.
Accepting the person you care about is similar to honoring the atmosphere in which they need to thrive.
If your home has mostly shade, or partial sunlight, don't buy a tree that requires full sunlight in order to grow well.
Likewise, if your home has full sun, don't expect a tree to thrive when it needs mostly shade.
One of the most inspiring things about nature is to see how trees change, grow, branch out, become stronger, more authentic, shed old leaves, and blossom new ones as the seasons pass.
One of the most inspiring things about people is that they do the same.
When you have a garden, you tend to it, and then you tend to your own life and growth.
As the seasons pass, you see the garden grow. You remember the tiny buds, and smile as you see them come into full bloom.
It is the same way with the people in your life that you love.
You can't tug at the roots of a baby sprout. When the sprout is ready, it will bud. You have to respect the process another person goes through. You also have to respect your own.
If you know you are about to drop a bushel of bruised apples as a result of a bad mood, find a way to either work it out in solitude, or share it with the person you feel most comfortable talking to.
Unconditional love is the most powerful force in this universe. You do not love the apple tree in your backyard on the condition that it brings you one thousand perfect apples each month.
You understand this tree is doing the best it knows how, and you are there to help it grow while you are also growing within.
Does a tree complete you as a human being? No. Neither does another person.
Is it nice to know you can count on your favorite tree to be there? Yes.
Sometimes trees go through their own storms. They cannot always produce perfect fruit when we may want them to. If this happens, do we ax the tree? No.
Likewise, we have to go with the flow of what we have.
We have to respect the person we are with. We don't ax them out of our life because they did not fulfill our expectations.
The only "condition" is pure love, respect, and honesty for both the other person, and your self.
As long as you are authentic, real, honest, and attending to your own growth, the person in your life will most likely be doing the same.
There is no deception. That is the forbidden fruit.
An apple tree will never give you a pear.
Likewise, don't give the person you love anything other than the real, natural you.
Bring out your entire real self. Then, and only then, will you be able to thrive, standing beside your equal in another human being.
About the Author
Barbara Rose discovered an amazing spiritual gift following a tragic loss. Author of: "If God Was Like Man," and "Individual Power: Reclaiming Your Core, Your Truth, and Your Life" receive critical acclaim. She brings through information to create the highest vision of your life, and our world. Her nationally praised seminars and articles have helped uplift thousands. Visit her website at www.borntoinspire.com
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