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Like everyone else, I start my day deleting the email ads for enlarging the penis. "I'm a girl," I want to shout. "Leave me alone. Go away and take those Ukrainian bride ads with you." And still they come, along with the colonic cleansings, the MLM marketing schemes, and the buy-codeine-online. It's not really such a big deal. You learn to recognize them by title and delete them.
But that's not what this article is about.
What it's about is, I do stop and think from time-to-time, "What is it like for men to read this over and over?" Penis pills, patches, herbal supplements and various contraptions claiming to enlarge the penis so many inches in so many months.
Well, actually the first thing that comes to my mind is, "How do they get away with this? Christopher Michaud offers the explanation in his article, "Spam E-mail Plays on Men's Deepest Fear" (TD Waterhouse Research) -- "Since the products have disclaimers stating they are not intended to treat medical problems, they fall outside the US regulatory process. The Federal Trade Commission (FTC) says there is no evidence the products have any effect." Indeed Michaud was unable to find any peer-reviewed studies comparing men who use these products to any placebo group and doubts they've ever been conducted.
So
buyer beware. This is nothing new. US consumers have to have their heads about them.
However, Michaud goes on to talk about the "primal obsession" these aids are preying upon. He quotes Dr. Frank Muscarella, a clinical and evolutionary psychiatrist at Barry University, Miami Shores, FL, who says, "The penis is a primary symbol of male sexuality and dominance." Oh, maybe so, but money and power are also.
Now, here's where I move over into the rough justice part, for while the world is not fair, there's a sort of rough justice out there (don't know who said that but it's not original to me).
The particulars of my own situation are of no import here. But needless to say, I wasn't born looking like Marilyn Monroe, or Britney Spears, or whatever the current fad happened to me. Nor were many of my friends and clients (coaching). However, I hasten to add, I'm also not a "dog." What we women go through re: the scrutiny, comparison, and judgment of our physical appearance from puberty onward is
now being experienced by men! (What is this word "dog"???)
For what do men want in a woman? Unmindful or unenlightened men, or maybe all men? The first thing they want on a dating service is a photo, the first thing they want to know about a blind date is "is she fat"? I've even been asked this on the phone. "Are you fat?" My psychologist friends tell me men sit in her office, 40 lbs. overweight with their beer-bellies hanging over their belts, and say they must have a woman who's "thin." Some men. Not all men.
I'm not a male basher, but if you've been on the other side of the fence, that is to say, a woman, you can't help but be affected by this emphasis on APPEARANCE. After all there are many industries built on this "primal obsession" of women which was at least in part created. After all, the Renaissance ideal woman was "statuesque" and the Venus of Willendorf is exceptionally well-endowed. All over. The ideal was not always bone thin.
Does having blond hair make me a better lover? Does weighing 125 lbs. make me a better wife? Does wearing a D cup make me a better companion? Does having legs from here to there make me a better person?
Of course not.
And does having a bigger penis
make any significance at all regarding what a man is like, as a person, a lover, a friend, companion or husband?
Does the size make a difference? I haven't done the definitive survey, but most women I've talked with just laugh. And then quickly add, "It's poetic justice."
How so? Because now men get a chance to see what it's like to be judged by physical appearance only, by a surface thing, like big boobs. And to have it continually thrust, you should pardon the expression, in their faces all day long. Like those television ads of nubile young women. How so "judged"? It's about raising awareness. Would I have stopped to consider the size of a man's penis? Maybe so, maybe not, but now that I read it about it all day long
.
I can see some 15 year old girl writing on her list of desirable qualities in a man, "Must have large penis."
Yes, I've read the stuff - a woman with the Fibonacci ratio figure projects good health, good breeding possibilities (and may in fact have them), but the basis was GOOD HEALTH. And some functionality there. You don't have to wear a D cup to be able to nurse a baby, the original intent of those things. Somewhere we moved to
well, after those beer billboard ads, what's a fella to do? Men are visual? Well soon women may be as well.
It's not an ideal world, no it is not, it is far from one, but of all the things you judge by, why would it be something superficial?
And if you're a guy who's having trouble coping with this, talk to a woman who's 25 lbs. overweight. She might have some tips on putting sad nonsense into perspective.
Like everyone else, I start my day deleting the email ads for enlarging the penis. "I'm a girl," I want to shout. "Leave me alone. Go away and take those Ukrainian bride ads with you." And still they come, along with the colonic cleansings, the MLM marketing schemes, and the buy-codeine-online. It's not really such a big deal. You learn to recognize them by title and delete them.
But that's not what this article is about.
What it's about is, I do stop and think from time-to-time, "What is it like for men to read this over and over?" Penis pills, patches, herbal supplements and various contraptions claiming to enlarge the penis so many inches in so many months.
Well, actually the first thing that comes to my mind is, "How do they get away with this?" Christopher Michaud offers the explanation in his article, "Spam E-mail Plays on Men's Deepest Fear" (TD Waterhouse Research) -- "Since the products have disclaimers stating they are not intended to treat medical problems, they fall outside the US regulatory process. The Federal Trade Commission (FTC) says there is no evidence the products have any effect." Indeed Michaud was unable to find any peer-reviewed studies comparing men who use these products to any placebo group and doubts they've ever been conducted.
So
buyer beware. This is nothing new. US consumers have to have their heads about them.
However, Michaud goes on to talk about the "primal obsession" these aids are preying upon. He quotes Dr. Frank Muscarella, a clinical and evolutionary psychiatrist at Barry University, Miami Shores, FL, who says, "The penis is a primary symbol of male sexuality and dominance." Oh, maybe so, but money and power are also.
Now, here's where I move over into the rough justice part, for while the world is not fair, there's a sort of rough justice out there (don't know who said that but it's not original to me).
The particulars of my own situation are of no import here. But needless to say, I wasn't born looking like Marilyn Monroe, or Britney Spears, or whatever the current fad happened to me. Nor were many of my friends and clients (coaching). However, I hasten to add, I'm also not a "dog." What we women go through re: the scrutiny, comparison, and judgment of our physical appearance from puberty onward is
now being experienced by men! (What is this word "dog"???)
For what do men want in a woman? Unmindful or unenlightened men, or maybe all men? The first thing they want on a dating service is a photo, the first thing they want to know about a blind date is "is she fat"? I've even been asked this on the phone. "Are you fat?" [Perhaps I should now reply, "Do you have a tiny penis?"] My psychologist friend tells me men sit in her office, 40 lbs. overweight with their beer-bellies hanging over their belts, and say they must have a woman who's "thin." Some men. Not all men.
I'm not a male basher, but if you've been on the other side of the fence, that is to say, a woman, you can't help but be affected by this emphasis on APPEARANCE. After all there are many industries built on this "primal obsession" of women which was at least in part created. After all, the Renaissance ideal woman was "statuesque" and the Venus of Willendorf is exceptionally well-endowed. All over. The ideal was not always bone thin.
Does having blond hair make me a better lover? Does weighing 125 lbs. make me a better wife? Does wearing a D cup make me a better companion? Does having legs from here to there make me a better person?
Of course not.
And does having a bigger penis
make any significance at all regarding what a man is like, as a person, a lover, a friend, companion or husband?
Does the size make a difference? I haven't done the definitive survey, but most women just laugh. And then quickly add, "It's poetic justice."
How so? Because now men get a chance to see what it's like to be judged by physical appearance only, by a surface thing, like big boobs. And to have it continually thrust, you should pardon the expression, in their faces all day long. Like those television ads of nubile young women. How so "judged"? It's about raising awareness. Would I have stopped to consider the size of a man's penis? Maybe so, maybe not, but now that I read it about it all day long
.
I can see some 15 year old girl writing on her list of desirable qualities in a man, "Must have large penis."
Yes, I've read the stuff - a woman with the Fibonacci ratio figure projects good health, good breeding possibilities (and may in fact have them), but the basis was GOOD HEALTH. And some functionality there. You don't have to wear a D cup to be able to nurse a baby, the original intent of those things. Somewhere we moved to
well, after those beer billboard ads, what's a fella to do? Men are visual? Well soon women may be as well.
It's not an ideal world, no it is not, it is far from one, but of all the things you judge by, why would it be something superficial?
And if you're a guy who's having trouble coping with this, talk to a woman who's 25 lbs. overweight. She might have some tips on putting sad nonsense into perspective.
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