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Love is a word that people use in many different ways. They "love" their food, or "love" that outfit. But true love is so much more than food, clothing, or anything tangible. Love is and always will be the exchange of care, concern, and genuine feelings toward another person.
The most marvelous part of love is that everyone loves in their own very unique way. The fact that each of us is different gives us the opportunity to love others in a special way and also to be loved by others in as many different ways.
When you love another person, you are giving them the gift of "you." No matter how many people will care about them, or assist them in their life, or make a monumental difference to them in some circumstance, only you can love them as you. Everyone has differences. No one is ever identical to anyone else in every way. Even identical twins have "differences." Having raised twin boys, I can attest to the fact that even if outward appearances seem to be "totally" identical, there are true differences. There is a unique way they smile or laugh. Their touch, or reactions are totally their own. They may share the same physical characteristics to a degree, but they will always be individual in their feelings, hopes, dreams, and in the way they love themselves and others.
To "love" someone you need to love yourself first. No one can give away what they do not possess. The love must be genuine, and not just a form of inflated ego. Any deceptive presentation of the real person is a facade that time will erode and crumble. You can touch lives, reach into hearts, and become a part of everyone else around you if the knowledge, pride, and affection is authentic and honest. With an unaffected awareness of our unique personage, we can touch everyone around us and leave a mark that will never be repeated for eternity. When we realize the impact we can have on others, we must also shoulder the responsibility. If we continue to learn and expand our knowledge, we can teach others more. Taking the time to appreciate what the world has to offer, gives us a chance to help others to celebrate life. Our daily struggle to find true wisdom gives everyone around us a closer look at truth. Whatever you learn or encounter, will enable others to move forward and grow. They, in turn, will influence other lives and together we can impact the entire universe.
The hardest obstacle we face in life is learning to love ourselves. Well, take that first step, shake hands with the most wonderful person, who is full of potential, with no limitations except those that are self-imposed, and will have an impact on the world that will never be repeated. The greatest tragedy is when we have friends, acquaintances, and are considered popular, but we miss knowing and appreciating the one person that is paramount to letting us live our life to the fullest. Without you knowing you, then everything else is secondary.
Take the time to know and love yourself and then set the world on fire. There is never a fear of finding yourself replicated by anyone else. Everything you do or say will be unique and special. You can only be you, and you can only reach out and love others as you. What you have in being you is a gift, but without sharing it, it will never have the chance to get brighter, and light up the world. Share you with the world and it will be a better place for it.
©Arleen M. Kaptur 2002 May