This issue we will continue on that track and talk about work / life balance.
There are a number of components to work / life balance:
1 defining success
2 understanding self
3 prioritizing self
The first area we spoke about in the last issue (if you do not have this and would like a copy, please send an email to coach@personalpowerinternational.com and include Issue #15 in the subject line). The second issue is understanding self. What I mean by this is looking at your beliefs, your words and your actions. Often our beliefs hold us back from achieving success. We have beliefs around everything. Some beliefs include: ‘Money is the root of all evil'. ‘I am not worthy', ‘money cannot buy love', ‘my karma is to be poor', ‘I need to be a workaholic to make money'. We program these beliefs into our belief system. Our minds think at the rate of approx 1,200 word PER MINUTE and we have about 50,000 individual thoughts per day!!! That's a lot of thoughts. If these are limiting thoughts and beliefs, we will then produce limiting behaviours!
Our words
As a coach, I often hear clients say to me "I SHOULD…." or "I'll TRY." These are words I will not accept - and neither should you. Saying these words really means that the action will not happen - it gives us a way out. "But I said I would try……. " It is far better to commit and fail than not to try. Start paying attention to your words, using more powerful words than I'll try and see what happens!
The third issue is prioritizing self. This is really important. So many people (particularly mothers) put everyone before themselves. But unless you take care of yourself, you cannot effectively take care of anyone else. When you fly, one of the first things they say is when the oxygen masks come down, take care of yourself before looking after others. This is a lesson we need to be applying in all areas of our lives. To take time for yourself, think about:
- what you can delegate
- what you are saying ‘yes' to that you really do not want to do.
TIP OF THE DAY - Write down ALL your limiting beliefs. Then change these negative, limiting beliefs into positive statements. Create a new set of possibilities. Read these new positive statements daily.
My challenge for you: once you have reprogrammed those negative beliefs, repeat these positive statements / affirmations 100 times a day for 28 days. Latest research shows that you need to be doing an action continuously for 28 days for it to become automatic. If you do it for 22 days and then forget a day, you would then need to go back and recount from day 1.
My stretch challenge: Use visualizations to help you see the picture that you are wanting to create.
Final thoughts: "Achieving Starts with Believing"